AIO about my friend not reciprocating my efforts in the friendship?

My (25F) long distance bestie(26F) is so bad at returning calls-until there’s something she’s going through. It’s mostly always about a boy and once things are “back on track” in her messy and toxic relationships, she starts tuning herself solely into the man in her life. As someone who has been in many toxic/emotionally and verbally abusive relationships and has spent a lot of time self reflecting,in therapy, reading up on toxic attachment patterns etc, I can say that I have or am trying to not engage in the same unhealthy habits that put me in these toxic relationships. I always tell give her so much advice (2-3hrs on call sometimes) and she agrees and 2 days later she’s back doing the same nonsense but this time behind my back cuz she knows I’ll disapprove. I’m trying hard to grow and I feel like she’s someone who just insists on making the same mistakes and refuses to learn from her experiences. It’s triggering for me at times because it takes me back to some of my past relationships which I’m trying to heal from. She’s always out partying/drinking/working out (she does modeling gigs so I get it) but she’s not all that busy that she can’t return my calls or even text. And even when she does text that she’ll call-she doesn’t. I feel like I’m always there for her(and I’m not complaining)but it just feels like she’s never there for me when I need her.It’s just a culmination of things and I’m so frustrated. Am I overreacting?