At what point do we run? And where?

I don’t think I need to explain that everything that’s happening right now is terrifying.

I’m a cisgender woman in a straight-passing relationship, so I recognize that I’m safer than most. But I live in a red state, and I know things are only going to get worse.

My partner wants to finish his degree before we go anywhere, and when I “joke” about moving to Canada he kind of rolls his eyes. I get it, but I don’t feel safe anymore. I don’t want to wait until it feels like we can’t leave our house, or we can’t get clean water/medications/uncontaminated foods because the government has cut the funding or oversight needed to maintain access to these things. I know he thinks I’m being dramatic, but I can’t shake that feeling.

We have no kids, but we do have cats that we love like children. I’d leave everything else behind if it meant our little family could safely set up shop elsewhere.

My company is flexible and compassionate, but I know they don’t support FT remote if I were to move. I have a masters degree, and he will have a bachelors in the next ~2 years. I’m working on learning French to hopefully make myself more marketable in Canada. I know a little Japanese and am working on that too.

I’m not even sure what questions I’m really asking here. Any thoughts from folks more experienced than I would be great.