What is the difference between Arsenal and Tottenham in the last 10 years

I’m an arsenal fan but every time we are given a opportunity to get back into the league we bottle it. We haven’t won the league since 2004 no trophy since 2020 (community shield doesn’t count) and out of the top 6 clubs Arsenal and Tottenham are the only ones without a champions league. I can’t believe I’m saying this but Chelsea is a bigger club than us