Parents that failed in life become narcissists

I grew up in an asian family with a lot of the typical problems many of you guys have faced. I wasn't allowed any free time, I was to spend my entire life studying engineering/languages, I could only pursue "approved hobbies" such as music and everyday i would be subjected to the cultural and language barrier, meaning i never got to win any arguments.

However the biggest issue is that I'm constantly being compared to the "ideal" sibling/cousins which was basically being an obedient trophy. Therefore my parents were never satisfied, finding new ways to bring down my happiness.

But when I play the uno reverse card and compare my parents to the parents of the ones I'm being compared to, I realized that they had completely failed in life.

I conclude that my parents(and many others) are narcissists, because they are insecure about their own failures.

Education: My asian parents value education and expect high grades while forcing me to get a masters degree in swe. Ironically, they never attended college and had poor grades throughout compulsory education.

Yet in comparison, ALL my uncles and aunts graduated from college as both my grandfathers were veterans. My parents simply refused to go to college, unlike their siblings who took advantage of the calvet college waiver being provided.

Employment: Parents have been unemployed for two decades and quit their jobs to collect social welfare. This has led to my family being entirely dependent on government aid. We receive low income checks, food stamps, tax breaks, acp internet, and basically every other benefit.

My aunts/uncles have jobs to make an honest and fair living. They worked hard to earn 6 figures and push themselves from low to middle or upper class.

Language: Despite living in the US for OVER 40 years, my parents never learned English. Unfortunately, I am trilingual and have been serving as their translation tool since I was 7 to do their taxes and handle other interactions.

Respectively, other family members had successfully assimilated into American society and became bilingual.

Quality of life: My parents came to the US for the American dream, only to become unhappy as they refuse to become functional members of society. My parents "work" 6 days a week for 12 hours. They have 0 vacation days and we have never even left the state of california. Heck they haven't even left southern california yet.

I am jealous that my cousins get to travel the world as their parents have vacation time, work 5 days a week for 8 hrs and are allowed time to pursue fun hobbies.

I hate that I'm supposed to be the one that cleans up after my parent's mess as they plan to move in with me after I move out. They guilt me into thinking that i owe them EVERYTHING as they worked "hard" to bring me into this country. Up until now they have lived a life of government dependence and will continue to leech off of their children.