In your experience, do women really value personality over/instead of “looks”?

It’s often used as an “all-or-nothing” statement, too, so it makes me wonder if people mean that a guy who’s overweight, depressed and maybe doesn’t take good care of himself could get a partner if he were kind and funny and stuff like that.

It just confuses me lmao. Also, because it leads women to say that they don’t find fit guys attractive, which is confusing (even if they tend to mean over-juiced up gym guys lol). It makes me wonder if I should even get in the gym.

There’s also the height thing, which is really well-publicized and also, in my opinion, part of “looks”. I’m 5’7 and definitely feel like I’m just fucked so if women didn’t care about my height as much as I hear that they do, that’d be great.

Sorry for the essay (and the rant). Felt like context might be good lol.