Update for my friends in this sub

I left this sub a month ago (see my Goodbye Avoidants post) and made a conscious decision to move on with my life and not get involved with any dismissive avoidant chat. I basically shut off all thoughts about my ex or my past with him. I told myself I would leave that pain in 2024. Well, he came back this week. I figured I would share my update with you wonderful people.

After almost four months of NC he messaged me. I had blocked him off everything except LinkedIn and that’s where he found me. Imagine my surprise. His message was “you really did block me.” I didn’t know how to reply. I asked him what he wanted me to say after he mistreated me. I was hoping for an apology but that didn’t come. We discussed a couple of life changes and then I snapped out of it and told him it’s best we do not communicate and that I won’t be able to forgive him. I blocked him on LinkedIn too. It is true what people say, three months is typically their sweet spot for returning. Don’t fall for it.

I spent a lot of time in this sub and wondered for weeks if he would ever reach out. I spent time crying, sad, hoping for some answers. Writing replies to posts and trying to support others. My advice to those suffering is please move on, please choose yourself. They won’t change and you deserve better. You will heal, you will thrive and if I can do it, you can! I love you all.