Are you still attracted to your husband?

Okay before you judge hear me out! Backstory: 29 (F) and 37 (M) We’ve been together 7 years, married 3. We have 2 littles, one 2 yo and 9 mo. So life recently has been hectic to say the least haha.

When we first got together it was almost unhealthy how into each other we were! We struggled a little with the full commitment to a relationship as many do when you’re young but we always came back to each other. Sex was a huge part of our relationship and I always felt strong lust and desire for him. Like I was obsessed 🤪 and don’t get me wrong - I know once you get married, settle down, and especially once you have kids that can change but I was not prepared at all.

I honestly get the “ick” anytime he touches me. And I HATE it. He looks exactly the same as when we met. I have obviously changed but he swears he stills finds me beautiful and tells me often. I feel so guilty and ashamed but I can’t seem to get any attraction back.

He’s such an involved dad, maybe not the best at remembering everything or doing it “right” but he tries so hard. I know we’re in the thick of our raising little babies season but I’m worried this will never come back. HELP! Is it “fixable”?

editing with more detail because loving this feedback

We just had a conversation yesterday where I tried to explain it to him without coming off heartless and mean! The only why I could think to describe it was: “I feel like I’m in a relationship with myself”. I have to tell him when and how to everything. He doesn’t make a move unless I say something. And when he does make the move I basically have to coach him through having sex with me. (Don’t you DARE touch these nipples anymore they see enough action already haha!). I tell him to have more passion! Jump on me! Smack my booty! Want me so bad it hurts! But nothing seems to stick. It just ends up feeling robotic and empty. I work full time so I honestly don’t feel “touched” out but still cringe at the thought of sex with him. So maybe it’s deeper than hormones? I feel so lost! We’re gonna try therapy but I don’t know how to say “I don’t wanna have sex anymore” to him much less another person!