Help me to stay strong

N husband and I had a deal. 4 days in, he didn't held up his promise. Now he claims to be so sad because of lifes challenges. (in his family are some hardships) Yesterday he talked negative about the people and said it was their own fault. Now he wants my pitty for himself. I'm disgusted. He is well aware of my soft spots and knows that I care deeply for his family members. But I don't want to let this BS slide.