Wait… am I being a pickmeisha?

I’ve been with my bf for a year and a bit. He was a provider, recently he’s been going through financial difficulties. He used to cook for me and clean for me. Now he told me to do it, and not in a nice request and kind way. He said I don’t do “sh*t” and then said so much mean stuff about me. Like I only care about money, I would leave him in a hurry, I don’t care about him, I’m entitled or whatever.

He is bipolar btw, so it wasn’t just words. No he broke stuff I paid for, he specifically asked how much I paid before breaking it and threw stuff.

Now, I know this is abusive behaviour. I talked about it in my last post and I am at my home now. He has mentioned that his ex left him without a word, without a trace. Before knowing any of that. I left him too and was going out with another guy and he claims I cheated. So I went back to him because 1) he (was) good at providing, 2) he took me everywhere and 3) I liked him.

I’m wondering if I’m being a pickmeisha because I told him “no wonder she left you for dead, I would’ve left too”, but then I stayed…. And he got more mean,, but I stayed. Then, now he’s in a situation where he is being evicted. He was blaming me and saying I’m bad, also the landlord said to him “choose better partners” because the ex left and I wasn’t there when he has to move. Because of that, he’s agreeing with the landlord and saying I’m a bad person. I said “your ex left you for dead, don’t group me in that”. I told him I don’t wanna talk to him because I felt disrespected that he would agree with the landlord and say I’m a bad person and I told him we should continue after the hard times clear and I muted his number. I’m wondering what to do.

Him being mean to me has ruined the attraction to him but I know what he can do and he would do it again, he said when this situation is over he’ll provide and take me out like he did before this.