Do your husband's get rougher with other ladies?

I am more of a sub type and like when guys get rough with me. I've told this to my husband. Sometimes he does with me, but is usually pretty gentle.

One of the reasons I enjoy swinging is finding guys who like to be rough. All good there. But I've observed my husband also seems to get rougher with the other wives more often than he does with me.

I suspect it's the energy of the swinging situation and more open to being that way with someone who is just for physical interaction and not a relationship.

But curious if other ladies have seen this too with their husbands.