Do lesbians actually exist?

updating to add: trans lesbians and anyone else who worries they may not fit the traditional mold or whatever, your experiences are SO welcome here!!! Don't worry about sharing because I want to hear from you too!! 🥺

I'm (25f) not trolling, I promise. Just hear me out.

I need to hear from real people who are lesbians and have been for a very long time. Because I'm having a literal fucking crisis.

I've been out as bi since I was a teenager, and am starting to consider I might be a lesbian. I don't actually know and I'm really taking it day by day and unpacking all of that.

A big thing holding me back is that every single person I know who were lesbians have ultimately ended up not being lesbians. I looked up a girl I went to college with who I dated 😭 the last thing I expected to find was her being MARRIED to a man not even a few years after I dated her.

It scares me because one of my friends was a hardcore lesbian and then she met her boyfriend and they've been dating for two years now.

I cannot go through all the acceptance and getting comfortable calling myself something again just to fall in love with a man ten years down the line. That's why I am taking it so slow while I try to understand.

So, please check in. Especially older lesbians! Introduce yourself. How long have you been out? Have you ever questioned it and what happened? Are you happy and with someone?