dating/sex anxiety
this might sound stupid but i’m really nervous about going out on a date because i’m afraid it’ll end up in sex. i’m not asexual but i’m 25 and have had no sexual or romantic experiences, and i’m worried that’ll be really apparent and give her bad experiences/make her think poorly of me. i know that in some ways it’ll be apparent because i’m not knowledgeable of dating culture or sex, but i still want her to have a good time and idk.. want me? it’s very hard for me to imagine having sex for the first time and it be a positive experience because i’m afraid she won’t be attracted to me or into it because i’m awkward and unsexy and by myself i can be loud and squirt occasionally and what if that happens with her and it ruins things? what if i want to bottom and she also wants to bottom? or what if i can’t make her feel good and it’s literally the worst sex she’s ever had? and if it is the worst sex she’s ever had then i’d feel really guilty for having wasted her time and given her a bad experience. i’m being crazy and too in my head about things i know, but i’m worried. i just want to date a beautiful woman. i wish i could skip forward in time to a future place where i somehow am already experienced and got over that awkward hump. i wish i felt attractive enough to be desired by people. i got nervous and cancelled a date i had this weekend. ugh, i’m having a day :/
edit: thank you to everyone for your kindness and affirmations. i rescheduled the date and she was really understanding <3