Do those with ADHD have social struggles?

Hi! I have been wondering if I have ADHD (predominantly inattentive) or if I have level one autism.

I have struggled socially my whole life. Things got a little better when I was in college but there were still problems with maintaining friendships and having intense friendships. I have suspected that I may have autism since I was 13 (I’m 27 now) but I’m curious if it’s all just ADHD. My sister has ADHD and my mom used to tell me when I was a teenager that I did my school work like someone with ADHD.

I’m curious if those with inattentive ADHD have social struggles similar to those with autism.

  • [ ] I have always been shy and quiet and when I’m with friends, I get very excited.
  • [ ] I always need someone with me when going somewhere new. I often use my husband as a shield when it comes to socializing (like if I see someone approaching us, I will kinda hide behind him so they say hi to him first)
  • [ ] I have trouble starting conversations with people I don’t know
  • [ ] I have trouble with eye contact and have to remind myself to look at people in the eye.
  • [ ] When I do talk to people, I tend to try to relate to them by talking about a similar experience but I usually see that that annoys them. I think they may see it as me trying to one up them.
  • [ ] I get easily distracted by things around me causing me to miss things in conversations or I start to think about something that they said after they have moved on. Sometimes I just start daydreaming
  • [ ] I either forget to say excuse me if I need to get pass someone or I say it too quietly and if I say it too quietly people don’t hear me so I just try to go around them without saying anything (if that made sense). This is just an example of how I have a hard time talking to people.
  • [ ] I have difficulty in group discussions
  • [ ] I relate to RSD a lot
  • [ ] If faced with conflict, I freeze and cannot speak (conflict with those outside of family). Or I struggle to communicate with them
  • [ ] People usually misunderstand me when I try to explain my views on something. I cannot explain things well.
  • [ ] I have difficulties maintaining friendships. I can only focus on a few friendships at a time. I am seeing one of my friendships fall apart because we don’t talk anymore. I find that talking to her is hard now because we are not in the same area of work anymore. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
  • [ ] My friendships revolve around things I hyper fixate on.
  • [ ] Making friends is hard too. College was easier but now I find it almost impossible because I don’t know how to get to know people who don’t have similar interests. In college, we talked about classes all the time and I loved my classes.
  • [ ] Overall, I think I am good with social cues. If I don’t know what to do, I ask someone what to do in certain social situations.
  • [ ] I have had these struggles for as long as I remember.

Please know I’m not trying to ask for a diagnosis. I know that going to a professional is the best thing to do. I just am curious if those with ADHD struggle with these or if these are more of an autism thing or social anxiety? I want to get the help I need to improve myself.