I'm getting into a potentially serious relationship for the first time since a trauma and I need some support

Hi, I (19M) have met a cute guy (20M). We share some interests, but not all, yet even the ones we don't share we like talking about. I'm autistic, and I think he is too. We met a month ago, but haven't met in person yet as I had had surgery and wasn't well enough. We speak every day, all the time, and he genuinely seems to like me and not mind my flaws.

I have also been hurt several times in several ways. Medically, emotionally, physically, sexually, you get the idea. I've started therapy but i have complex ptsd and the services here aren't great for people like me.

Today he told me he loved me.

I think i could absolutely love him once i get to know him more, but it feels too soon. I didn't say it back, I said that it'd take me time to say that but that doesn't mean I don't like him. He's been good with considering my traumas and changing the way he words things so I'm more comfortable. I'm just worried because it seems soon? We're planning to meet in the next week or so, he lives nearby.

I don't know what to do or say. We're both looking for long term, but he talks about it a lot. I just want to focus on now more often, now he knows about my disabilities.

Is this normal? To be anxious like this but also want it? Is it worse because of my trauma? Is this a red flag or do i just need to communicate more?