I'm getting surgery without telling my parents.

They'll know after the fact, but I don't want to tell them before. They'll show up to the hospital and make a HUGE fuss, my extended family will show up and do the same when my parents share the info, and I just don't want that. This surgery isn't even that major. I have support, people to take care of me, and I'm sick of my mom (specifically) always making everything about her.

This is eating me up. I grew up telling my parents everything, mostly because I was forced to, and partially because I thought that's what families did. Come to find out, it's not normal for a 24 year old to divulge all this personal info to his parents, and to still ask his mom if he can go out with friends.

Has anyone done similar, and how did you get through it in one piece? How did it go when your family eventually found out about your surgery or other big thing? Again, this is like a 30 minute procedure, but still. I understand the natural concern for their kid, but not when they're going to make it about them. I don't need to be consoling them and taking care of them while fresh out of surgery.