Removed phone service out of spite.

My mother and I have been arguing for the past two years about my boyfriend, whom I've been with for seven years.

She had my life mapped out since childhood and has been relentless in trying to mold me into her vision. As a former model, she’s obsessed with my appearance, weight, clothing, and hair. She controlled my life until 4-5 years ago, and I didn't realize how much I pandered to her whims. She never saw me as an adult and treated me like a child. When I tried to set boundaries, she laughed and called me "too sensitive."

Two years ago, my boyfriend and she had their first argument after five years of him enduring her narcissistic behavior. She belittled him constantly because he was between jobs, and to her, materialism and status are everything. My mom and boyfriend have not seen eachother for 2 years, and we live in the same town.

After my dog died, things became clearer. I just wanted peace, and my boyfriend did too. Four months later when we got a new puppy, we invited her and her boyfriend over to make amends. My mother, who has belittled and spread false stories about my boyfriend for years, even offered to help with my house down payment if I broke up with him, he chose to let that all go and move on for himself, us, and their relationship.

In response to the invitation, she DEMANDED to know if he had a job. That’s the only thing she was interested in. Not just happy to move on, or to be in my life more. When I told her it wasn't her business to know about his job, she became extremely determined to know and said she wouldn’t be able to come over if she didn’t know. I kept that information private— she has to always know everything and has never left me to have privacy. She ended up not coming over because that info was the ultimatum.

At my last effort, I wrote her a letter explaining my feelings and poured my heart out— but she wanted to talk on the phone, which didn't happen.

After three months of ignoring her messages, hoping for some self-reflection, she removed me from the family plan and car insurance without warning because she wanted to take something away from me because I’m not following her orders and I assume she wanted to hurt me. When I asked for the account information to transfer all the information, she insisted I call her, and now she’s silent.

I don’t have a problem getting a new phone and paying got my own bills. I’m turning 30 in two weeks. What pisses me off that it’s out of spite.